Comments on Who Cares What I Think?: Throw Me Under the Bus!

Hey there, C. Porter. What a great commentary on ...

2011-11-29T01:17:36.460-05:00

Hey there, C. Porter. What a great commentary on something many of us know only too well. Love your descriptions of how your ex-cousin in law treated you. Glad you were able to finally block her. Thanks for reading the post and thanks for taking the time to comment.

Unfortunately, being thrown under the bus outside ...

2011-11-29T00:43:10.411-05:00

Unfortunately, being thrown under the bus outside of the work place also happens quite often too, such as family and friends running people over. I use to have a friend who often threw me under the bus to save her own rear end more than a few times, although I often found it to be upsetting when she did this, what made things even worse was the fact that this ex-friend was married to my Cousin.

Many of her deceptive ways to save herself from being caught in an out right lie caused conflict between me, her, my cousin, and his family. Eventually, I wised up and stopped having anything to do with any of those people in that family for a list of good reasons. 3 years later after going my own separate way enjoying my life, she called me up out of the blue to tell me that my cousin wants to divorce her, as if I'm suppose to forget all the crap she done to me and instead, listen to her pain. I suppose it's quite clear, she only viewed me as being a door-mat for her to wipe her messy shoes on.

As stupid as it was for doing so, I listened to her frustration while keeping a tight hold on my own opinions due to a trust issues I have with her, I'm glad I did keep my opinions to myself. I never heard from her again until a week later when I found out she threw me under the bus like old time sake.

Instead of wasting my time to confront the narcissistic trouble maker, I instead made a phone call to my phone company and had all her phone numbers blocked. She can have fun swimming with the Sharks now, I'll enjoy my life without her in it as always.

Admittedly my first read of your works. Will most ...

2010-04-28T00:33:09.359-04:00

Admittedly my first read of your works. Will most certainly not be my last! I have been in my field for almost 40 years, been under the bus and been the driver. As time passes and the fog clears from the bus windows one does realize the high road is filled with a sense of being the drivers of the world will never be capable of understanding. See ya on the high rd.

Yup, know what you are feeling. Got tire tracks o...

2010-02-10T17:54:43.028-05:00

Yup, know what you are feeling. Got tire tracks on my head too.

Well done...It is especally frustrating when you h...

2010-02-09T09:15:28.068-05:00

Well done...It is especally frustrating when you have just been tossed under the bus and see another one is coming the other way.

I would never have pegged you as the weak one to p...

2010-02-08T10:08:38.223-05:00

I would never have pegged you as the weak one to prey upon, and I think they have seriously underestimated you. These people usually get what's coming to them, and we can only hope we all get to see it play out in some public, humiliating way. I can feel it coming, can't you!

An excellent piece, Mindie! I've never met you...

2010-02-06T12:25:19.040-05:00

An excellent piece, Mindie! I've never met you in person but my "sense" of you is that, indeed, you would know it best to fight this sort of childishness--which bullying is in its base form--with a smart, high-road approach. Most of us have been under a bus or two ... I remember a BIG event in my life which qualifies ... & so we can identify w/this. And so much of it goes on that I cringe at the thought of having to ever go back into any sort of corporate biz world--though it may happen, it's scary.

I was there just recently, as a matter of fact. I ...

2010-02-06T11:46:39.212-05:00

I was there just recently, as a matter of fact. I thought I could trust a fellow employee with some confidential information and he went straight to the department head who promptly told me I no longer have a job. Men are lying backstabbing weasels and I hope they are the ones that get hit by a bus. Literally.

I can sympathize, been there... it takes up more e...

2010-02-06T08:17:32.934-05:00

I can sympathize, been there... it takes up more energy covering your butt then doing the job. I like what Dr. Wayne Dyer says: Take No Offense - That which offends you only weakens you. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place—so transcend your ego and stay in peace.

Well it seems to have worked out in your favor. It...

2010-02-06T06:29:52.303-05:00

Well it seems to have worked out in your favor.
It's a shame we have to put up with bus-bowling...but alas it does exist. Great blog . Thanks.
Ylee

Excellent job. There was a study done in Canada ab...

2010-02-06T00:10:28.380-05:00

Excellent job. There was a study done in Canada about BULLIES and how they effect the workplace:
"Most organizations have a serial bully. It never ceases to amaze me how one person's divisive, disordered. dysfunctional behavior can permeate the entire organization like a cancer" Tim Field
http://www.bullyonline.org/thefieldfoundation/index.htm
http://www.bullyonline.org/
I was blindsided by such an attack and it can be devastating. Thank you Mindie, Sandy

Oh, how I couldn't agree more. This ridiculous...

2010-02-05T23:39:57.190-05:00

Oh, how I couldn't agree more. This ridiculous, childish behavior is what sent me kicking and screaming from the retail world of customer service years ago. The imminent threat that you pose to these sad little beings,just by being effective at your job, is enough to drive them to do the unthinkable.I have personally been under that bus so many times, I should be like the proverbial man hole cover. Too bad those poor individuals couldn't use all that negative energy to actually perform their jobs in the manner in which they are expected. For me, after years of this crap, the final scene came as I exited my place of business and made sure I let that one individual know where she could shove that job!!! Damn, that felt good!!!

Let me just say that you have "hit the nail o...

2010-02-05T21:55:00.866-05:00

Let me just say that you have "hit the nail on the head" in addressing this issue. All of us have been thrown under a bus or few and have felt exactly as you do. Your read gives all of us power to face those who feed off of our success in hopes of squelching any recognition we deserve. All of us, too, have been in a position where the "powers that be" feel threatened by our existence and consequently we now fear their wrath. Thank you for verbalizing what some of us deal with on almost a daily basis. Ohhhhhhh I feel so much better after reading your blog just knowing that others have tracks of their backs too. We all have been "under the bus"!..... Laurie